All change requires grief
Anything that is meaningful that changes will need some kind of grief process or you will not let go of how it used to be, or how you used to think of it or want it to be.
Grieving is an honoring process which modern life does not really help us understand or do to the extent that we need to as attachment-forming and meaning-making monkeys.
Grieving takes energy and intention to successfully complete. But also, not grieving drains your energy because you keep feeding it to the thing you haven’t let go of.
Grieving is never really easy, but you can at least not invalidate your need for it. You can always validate yourself and your own needs even if you can’t find that externally.
The higher your need for autonomy, the more you need to decide the how and when of grieving yourself and reject anyone else’s idea of how that should go.
Making creativity part of your process is a way to make grieving feel generative and like renewal rather than just loss.
